Friday 26 October 2012

Are you disappointed?

One question I have got used to in this pregnancy is 'Are you hoping for a girl?'. People have assumed that since we already have a gorgeous baby boy, we would need a little pink bundle to make our family complete.  When I announced that Squish will be a little brother for Dylan the question changed and people were asking whether we were disappointed?.

I can honestly say that I am completely and utterly
over the moon to be having another little boy.  I love my gorgeous son and cannot imagine life without him.  I love everything that comes with baby boys from the tiny little dungarees to the cars and trucks and I can't wait to get messy climbing trees and splashing in puddles and get absorbed in Lego and building things (he is going to have to enjoy all these things because I remember how much fun they are!).  I would have been just as happy had the sonographer said that Squish was a girl, but I cannot wait to hold my little man in my arms.


Having only 18 months between them I have high hopes that my boys will be firm friends. I hope they will play together, fight less over TV programmes and days out and learn to play nicely with their toys.  Squish will fit nicely in Dylan's old clothes, old car seats and old toys although he is growing quite a little wardrobe full himself!  At the end of a day's work I will be able to come home to 'my boys' - all three of them!

I am not disappointed in the slightest.  All I hoped for was to see a happy healthy baby on that little screen no matter what is between it's legs.  A friend told me that she was asked this question all the time too when she had her second little girl but in her eyes she had the perfect family and I feel the same.  Having my two little boys is perfect and only time will tell whether our family is complete as a four, or whether another little (or two if I get my way!) person will come along later.

I am so happy and proud to announce that in 17 short weeks we should be holding our gorgeous baby boy and so far he is growing well, kicking lots and having great fun using my bladder as a bouncy castle.  I love having my little dude around and can't wait to give him a baby brother and playmate.

33 comments:

  1. Awwww, saying hello from one mother of a Squish to another! :-)

    When I was pregnant with my Squish we were hoping for a girl (even had the name picked out) but I think it was more to do with the fear of having a boy. I grew up with all sisters so I didn't quite understand boys, know how to change them, how to have certain *ahem* conversations. But I absolutely love him and wondered what I was so scared about... I would LOVE another boy now. lol xx

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    1. I don't think I would know what to do with a baby girl now but I am a pro at the boy thing! (Or I like to think so anyway hehe) Squish was a boy's name from the start then!

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  2. oh i have had that too, its annoying, i have 3 boys and 1 girl and love them all equally x

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  3. you must be delighted! so nice for him to have a little bro to wrestle and play with. whatever the sex kids are so unique and have such special relationships. B

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    1. I am hoping that they get on well and can play together but only time will tell as I didn't get on too well with my brother when we were little!

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  4. People are funny- why would you be disappointed to be having a healthy baby- whatever flavour! Two boys will be lovely! I wish I had had mine closer together xx

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    1. Can't work out if we are sensible or crazy having them this close but I love that I will have my two baby boys so close x

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  5. me too. with having 2 older boys and 2 step sons we can't possible wanted to have another boy. we didn't find out and waited for the surprise. we even got asked when out with pram if were disappointed it was a boy. I mean how bloody rude. love my 5 boys. I would have 5 more lol xxx

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    1. I do love having a boy and I think it is much cheaper as I know how many pretty dresses I would have bought for a girl! Any little baby is precious no matter what!

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  6. Ive done a similar post recently. As long as you baby is happy and healthy who can ask for more!

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    1. Just read it. How can you not love your gorgeous boys! I think we are all given the perfect children for us - some of us are meant to be mothers to little boys

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  7. I, like you, would have been equally happy for Splodge to be either a boy or girl. In fact I spent most of my pregnancy getting really hacked off when people said things like "Wouldn't it be lovely if you had a girl?"....... well, yes, it would.... but no more lovely than if I have another boy. Grrr! It really annoyed me.
    There just seems to be this implication that one boy and one girl is what everyone wants. Just like most people assume that once you have two that you'll be finished.
    It will be lovely for Dylan to have a little brother so close to him in age. They'll be like best of friends. x

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    1. There seems to be an unwritten thing about what constitutes the perfect family but I think it is far from perfect. I love knowing that I am having a second boy but would have loved a girl equally as much.

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  8. I get this ALL the time lovely. At work the other day we were talking about a friend of mine who works there who has a girl and has just found out she is having a boy. In front of me one of my colleagues said 'I can't believe how lucky she is to have one of each, that is just the most special thing ever, I would be disappointed if I got two the same.'

    I literally nearly punched her. How can you say that any baby is anything less than the most amazing thing ever? If I am completely honest, I am chuffed to bits to be having two girls, I love my girl so much and I can see them growing up to be firm friends. Plus I love all the bits that come with girls. I couldn't ask for anything better. Grrr these people annoy me! ;) x

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    1. some people just don't seem to think before they speak! Whatever gender they will not be the same either. You will have two unique little people there. I consider myself lucky to have one gorgeous baby and another one on the way. x

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  9. I must admit that I was hoping for a girl this second time around and I had a feeling I was having one but I wasn't at all disappointed to find out I was having a second boy. It's way more practical after all as I have all the clothes already ;)

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    1. I think it is much more practical although I wouldn't have minded the extra excuse for shopping! hehe x

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  10. I have two boys and people said that to me too. My boys are amazing, they are great friends and play so well together. Just like your two will. Not sure what my third is but I reckon another boy and all people can talk about is if this will be my little girl. A healthy baby and mummy is all that matters. x

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    1. I have a feeling I will only have boys but that is fine with me as long as every one is precious. Hope your baby is happy and healthy no matter what is between the legs! x

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  11. That is so annoying! Why would you be disappointed? Boys ate adorable and all that matters is that you've got a healthy baby. When my second son was born, my MIL told me she hadn't got him a present and 'I'd have really gone to town if it was a girl!' No way! I was not happy!

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    1. I do think girls are easier to shop for although I don't need any help so quite happy it is another boy! That is really rude though, hope she didn't get any newborn snuggles!

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  12. Boys are truly fab. I think I would panic if found out we were having a girl next time round (if there is a next time!) as would feel less prepared! D is so lovely if all babies were like him everyone would want a boy xx

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    1. Thanks, that is such a lovely comment! I can only hope that Mr Squish is as perfect as Dylan x

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  13. I think it's great like you say they will grow up close and be best mates. I haven't encountered all that yet but probably will. I too am having my bladder used as a bouncer! lol! Can't believe that in 17 weeks we will both be holding our little ones! (if not before!) Hope you are well lovely xxx

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    1. It is crazy and I find time is going so fast this pregnancy! The bladder thing is less great although luckily it seems worse during the day as with these colder nights I don't want to be wandering around too much!

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  14. Isn't it the weirdest thing for people to ask? I think it's a blessing really as you get to recycle your son's old baby clothes! I have this gut instinct my next one with be a boy too. If he's anything like Dexter, I'll be over the moon x

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    1. People seem to find you public property as soon as the bump starts showing though and I know other parents have been asked equally ridiculous questions! Hope Dexter gets a lovely little brother then x

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  15. People ask me that now and I'm not even pregnant! I'd be delighted if our second was a girl but I'd be just as delighted with a boy too. The thing I want most is that they and little z are firm friends, just like you've said in your post. Hope bump is doing well :)

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    1. Healthy is far more important than gender and what will be will be. Hope everything goes well x

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  16. I am so happy you're not disappointed, because when I found out I was having a boy, I was. I was so convinced I was having another girl, and to be honest, boys scared me a bit. BUT I got over it and now I can't imagine not having a boy. YAY for boys, they are FABULOUS!

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  17. Having two children, a boy and a girl. It was assumed that I was relieved when the second turned out to be a girl. I, like you would have been happy with either as long as it was healthy etc. My boss is father to 3 boys and it was quite embarrassing when the 3rd was born and it was "yet another boy". He had everything from "better luck next time" to "your wife must be gutted". Not the best comments when your trying to tell the world about your new addition.

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  18. We have two boys 20 months apart and I actually wanted a boy second time round in the hope they would be best friends. They love each other now (18mths and 3yrs) but do like to wrestle!
    Much cheaper having same sex babies. We are toying with the idea of a 3rd and I only have to mention the slight chance we might go for it and the first question we get is 'are you trying for a girl!'
    I quite like the idea of being a Mum to all boys and I'd have to change my log and twitter name if we had a girl :D

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