Monday 11 January 2016

Baby Boy or Baby Girl?

With three boys already I am sure you can imagine the comments I am getting as I announce this pregnancy.  Wouldn't it be lovely if this were to be a girl, surely we must want a girl after three boys, were we trying for a girl?  The truth is we would love a baby girl, although the concept seems alien to me after four years of raising boys.  We would love a fourth boy just as much, although yes, maybe it would be a shame to have never known any different.

I really had no preference when I was pregnant the first time, it didn't even occur to me to want one or the other, but when we found out we were pregnant with number two I was secretly hoping it was a second little boy - with the close age gap I could imagine myself with two little boys, driving trains around the living room, kicking a football together at the park and sitting under a blanket together watching films one day.  

Finding out about our third little baby was a shock, and what I wanted more than a choice of gender was a baby who would stay small that bit longer.  Dylan grew so fast and Archie grew up so fast, I wanted a baby.  I got my wish, maybe too much as Finn took so long to grow, but at 10 months he still feels very much like a baby.  He still fits perfectly in my arms, still sleeps cosily on my chest and he has the calmness of a baby much younger than himself at times.

After having Finn, with this baby, my one wish if I was to be granted one is that he or she is born healthy.  That I can spend those precious first weeks enjoying my little bundle rather than worrying whether he would survive and what quality of life he would have.  I want a baby I can have at home with me, who can settle straight into his or her place in our new bigger family.  Whether this baby is a girl or boy really isn't my priority, I fully understand the fact that healthy is the most important thing.

Somedays I think I would really like a little girl, I spot something adorable that a boy just couldn't pull off, I think about my favourite girls names that we have never had an opportunity to use and I wonder what life with a daughter would be like.  Other days I think a little boy would complete our family, a little buddy for Finn, a quad of boys that will grow up so close together.  I naturally gravitate towards the boys section in shops, I love my sons and another would be amazing.

I don't feel like I 'know' as much as I did with the other three.  I was so certain they were boys, and whilst my head still tells me this is another, I haven't bought anything yet, I don't have the same conviction.  In many ways this pregnancy is very much the same.  I have escaped the nausea and sickness again and my biggest symptoms are tiredness and a rapidly expanding waistline.  My cravings are still a mix of sweet, salty and dairy with macaroni cheese, ready salted crisps and flake bars coming top of the list - very similar to the others.  There are differences though, noticeably in that the tiredness this time has been exhaustion and debilitating at times.  I have had my first tastes of heartburn (probably because I lay down for most of the day) and the skin on my face is suddenly incredibly dry.


We will definitely be finding out, I don't have the patience not to, and I am tempted to book a private scan and find out early this time,  This is most definitely our last pregnancy (I know I said that last time but it really is now) and so I almost feel like I want to try a new experience - a private gender scan and finding out early.  We don't have a great nub shot and Britney seems to fall somewhere in the middle when it comes to skull theory.  Opinion seems to be split as do the old wives tales.  I still think this is our fourth baby boy but the bloke thinks it is a girl - we will be finding out in the next few weeks.


11 comments:

  1. Congrats Bex. I vote for a happy baby, too. Still can't wait to find out. I had a boy first and got nervous about the possibility of a girl as I knew what to do with a boy. She is nine months now, and so far just and individual baby with her own personality as they all have just the nappy procedure is slightly less difficult really :) no fountains

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    1. MY boys are so different I really can't imagine how a girl would change things. I still think boy though

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  2. Well I really hope you get your wish :). We got a lot of similar questions when I was expecting Pip and I had much the same answer! It's very exciting to think that you'll be finding out so soon, I hope you have a lot of fun at your scan :)

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    1. I don't have the patience to wait although I commend all that do. Hopefully the scan can tell!

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  3. I am secretly hoping the bloke is right. Tutus and tiara's at the photo shoot would be my choice every time.I think I am as excited as you to find out.

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    1. I still don't think I could do the princess thing, maybe the odd touch of pink, but I can't imagine going overly girly even if it was a little girl

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  4. It would drive you crazy wondering alright, my husbands family are all boys and the saying is that their family only make boys so the pressure was on me to provide a girl - we have 1 boy now already and baby number 2 is in the way - looking forward to finding out if it's a boy or a girl! Best of luck with your pregnancy!

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    1. My other half is one of four brothers - another reason it makes sense that this is boy number 4! I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly

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  5. I am wishing that this is a happy, healthy baby. To come home soon after the birth and be able to just enjoy that baby. Lots of love Bex x

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  6. Echoing Donna in that I hope you get your wish to be able to enjoy those newborn days without worry and hospitals.

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  7. Aww I hope everything goes well and a healthy happy baby is most important like you say. Both of my pregnancies were much the same although second time round I was so exhausted I would fall asleep at 7pm and that would be me for the night! I also craved more sweet than savory but then everyone's different. I had a boy first time round and then a girl. Sometimes I think about having another but I'm not sure I could handle the stress haha :)

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