Tuesday, 4 June 2013

Hands Full

Everywhere I go I am met with questions about my beautiful boys.  People want to have a look in the pram at a sleeping Archie or a chat to Dylan wherever we are, from the post office, to playgroups to the park. They ask the boy's names, how old they are, how they sleep and eventually get round to reciting two phrases - 'isn't he big for xxx months' and 'don't you have your hands full!'

It is true that I have two children under two.  I either have a double pushchair with me, or one in a pushchair/on a trike and one in a sling.  Having two is definitely harder than having one child, although I realise this more now when I only have one to look after.  Having two is certainly not twice as hard as having one child though, and although I may seem to have my hand's full, I wouldn't change a thing.

Here go, Bubba

My days are busier and leaving the house takes that little bit longer.  My days are also fuller and it is a rare occasion when the boys decide to nap at the same time.  My days are however, full of more fun and excitement than ever.  They are full of pride watching my gorgeous boys and any hard moments are completely worth it when I see the two little people that I created becoming friends.

When I was pregnant I couldn't decide whether an 18 month age gap was crazy or clever.  On the one hand I have two in nappies, two in a pushchair, two that are still dependant so much on me and two that need constant attention.  On the other hand, Dylan has soon forgotten life without his brother in it and hasn't shown even a hint of jealousy.  He has been given a playmate, a partner in crime.  Someone to teach, to learn from, to fight with and to love.  Archie has had a sidekick from the very beginning and the energy and effort I put into entertaining and stimulating Dylan as a baby is now a task shared as Dylan shows Archie toys, talks and sings to him and provides a constant show for his entertainment.


Dylan is happier to have his nappy changed or sit in a pushchair with his brother besides him and some of our daily battles were eliminated by the newest member of the family's arrival.  He is learning to share and already I can see how much he will love Archie being able to interact more.  They already have their own little games and Archie cannot wait to be on the move and joining in with his big brother too.

I may struggle sometimes with a child that wants to sit down and feed and another that wants to be pushed in the swings, but the furthur into our new adventure I go, the easier it gets to balance their needs.  My hands are full right now, one hand to carry Archie and another to hold Dylan's hand.  They have half of me each but they also have half of each other and we happy this way..  


25 comments:

  1. I love this post, its so true and it just gets better. Your hands are full now, but soon enough all they want is each other. Mummy's not allowed to join in the game because she's not little!

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    1. They already have their own little games and I can't wait for them to really play x

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  2. This is a lovely post Becky- with two under two you definitely have your hands full, as do I with a 2.5 year old and a 16 week old, but we wouldn't have it any other way! x

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    1. exactly! It may not be twice the work but it is definitely twice the fun!

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  3. Its a lovely post im close in age to my brother and we are so close.
    I'm not sure what i would do without my partner in crime :)

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    1. There is 18 months between my brother and I, and between him and my sister as well and we are all so close now so I really hope my children grow up to be the same

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  4. You've two very beautiful boys :)

    I've two boys with a similar age gap and I do find it a struggle at times but I wouldn't change it for the world. They are 4yrs and 2yrs old and are at the stage of enjoying each others company (with the occassional scuffle!) which eases the pressure a wee bit.

    Lovely post x

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    1. I am under no illusion that they won't fight, but as long as they play together I think we will cope. x

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  5. Lovely post, and great to see how well you are doing, as I have found it a challenge to say the least! It is lovely NW though, seeing them play together x

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    1. It certainly is not easy but it looks like it only gets easier as they learn to entertain each other more and more. Your two look like they play so nicely together x

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  6. I am forever getting told that I have my hands full! Yes its hard work but worth it x

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    1. I only have two, I do wonder what people say to parents of multiples or those with 3, 4 or more children!

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    2. Lol- my most appreciated comment was "I couldn't have had twins". I can't believe how many people say it... or that they have it in their head it's something you can opt in or out of.

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    3. I think some people don't think before they open their mouths! hehe x

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  7. Love this post, your boys are going to grow up with a playmate and that is lovely. Its great that they are so close already. It is more challenging having two but I wouldn't have it any other way.

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    1. It is so rewarding too that is seems to balance out the challenging at the moment, I think it will be a whole new ball game once Archie is on the move though!

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  8. Ah this is a nice positive post after I've had a really tough day, it's made me feel a bit better. Having two is actually not nearly as hard as I thought it would be, and on a good day it's not that bad at all but we have had a bad week because they have both had colds and Jobey had his jabs today, plus Iyla has started getting really bored when I'm feeding Jobey but I wouldn't change it for the world. I am looking forward to when they can interact a bit more though! x

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    1. Oh there are definitely hard moments and if they both decide to scream at the same time I always panic but the good times certainly out weigh the hard for me. Hope Jobey is feeling better soon. x

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  9. Once I heard someone say about a big family that they heard the phrase "you've got your hands full" so much that the littlest one actually thought it was a way of greeting people or saying hello - as everyone seemed to greet them with it! found that so cute lol!

    I have the same gap as you, but I did it twice in a row so ended up with 3 in 3 years (so yes i get the comment quite a lot too!) It's a good gap, lovely for the children to grow up close in age and playing together.

    your 2 little ones are both so cute :)

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    1. My mum had 3 in 3 years as well and she has survived just fair without a single grey hair as well! I watch 16 and counting and think that is the real meaning of 'hands full'!

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  10. I have a 22mth age gap, sometimes I thought a 2yr age gap would be better- Seren's language was so much more developed. Today I had their first playschool photo. It's so wonderful to have them so close in age, yes the challenges are there but my children are the best of friends- and I got sleep deprivation out of the way with in one go!

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    1. Generally Archie sleeps quite well (touch wood) and Dylan is my little super sleeper but I definitely think there is something to staying in the baby mindset rather than getting rid of pushchairs and nappies only to have to get them all back out again x

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  11. Enjoyed reading this, sometimes I worry about when and if we have another so it was good to read this and see how well you guys are doing. Love your two gorgeous boys :)

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