Everywhere I go I am met with questions about my beautiful boys. People want to have a look in the pram at a sleeping Archie or a chat to Dylan wherever we are, from the post office, to playgroups to the park. They ask the boy's names, how old they are, how they sleep and eventually get round to reciting two phrases - 'isn't he big for xxx months' and '
don't you have your hands full!'
It is true that I have two children under two. I either have a double pushchair with me, or one in a pushchair/on a trike and one in a sling. Having two is definitely harder than having one child, although I realise this more now when I only have one to look after. Having two is certainly not twice as hard as having one child though, and although I may seem to have my hand's full, I wouldn't change a thing.
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| Here go, Bubba |
My days are busier and leaving the house takes that little bit longer. My days are also fuller and it is a rare occasion when the boys decide to nap at the same time. My days are however, full of more fun and excitement than ever. They are full of pride watching my gorgeous boys and any hard moments are completely worth it when I see the two little people that I created
becoming friends.
When I was pregnant I couldn't decide whether an 18 month age gap was crazy or clever. On the one hand I have two in nappies, two in a pushchair, two that are still dependant so much on me and two that need constant attention. On the other hand, Dylan has soon forgotten life without his brother in it and hasn't shown even a hint of jealousy. He has been given a playmate, a partner in crime. Someone to teach, to learn from, to fight with and to love. Archie has had a sidekick from the very beginning and the energy and effort I put into entertaining and stimulating Dylan as a baby is now a task shared as Dylan shows Archie toys, talks and sings to him and provides a constant show for his entertainment.
Dylan is happier to have his nappy changed or
sit in a pushchair with his brother besides him and some of our daily battles were eliminated by the newest member of the family's arrival. He is learning to share and already I can see how much he will love Archie being able to interact more. They already have their own little games and Archie cannot wait to be on the move and joining in with his big brother too.
I may struggle sometimes with a child that wants to sit down and feed and another that wants to be pushed in the swings, but the furthur into our new adventure I go, the easier it gets to balance their needs. My hands are full right now, one hand to carry Archie and another to hold Dylan's hand. They have half of me each but they also have half of each other and we happy this way..
