We brought them up the same, or as close to it as we could, although there are obvious differences being the younger brother to an 18 month old compared to an only child. We loved them equally and always will, but they are so different in every way.
Whilst Dylan is much taller and bigger than children his age, he is often mistaken for an older child. His language is advanced, and his concentration is pretty amazing for a boy just turned three. He is desperate to learn, whether it be through books or museums, and he is an outgoing but sensitive child.
Whilst Dylan would tell us that he was holding a purple hexagon at this age, Archie is still learning the words for colours and shapes without any knowledge of what they refer to. Dylan's sentences are but words to Archie and numbers are a thing of the future, whilst his big brother was counting to 10 at the same age. Archie hasn't had as much one on one time, but he has had something just as amazing, he has had a big brother to learn from, play with and share with.
I have been looking at it the other way though, and whilst at 20 months Dylan was learning to get onto the sofa, Archie had that in the bag a whole year earlier. Whilst Dylan was playing happily with toys, Archie has been doing role play and pretend for several months already. They both have such different strengths, and whilst one of my boys is already promising to be an acadmic sort, the other is definitely more physical. I wonder what little pretzel will turn out like.