Friday, 14 November 2014

Three Boys

Three boys, this is my future.  My one tiny tot became the troublesome two and soon I will have a trio of terrors.  I announced that we were expecting another baby when we were 13 weeks pregnant, which meant seven weeks of being told 'you must be hoping for a girl this time then'.  

I would have been over the moon had the sonographer seen the telltale signs that told us to buy pink, but I was equally as excited when she told us that the boys would be welcoming a little brother in the new year.  Our baby is growing well, it looks healthy and he even gave us a hi5 from the womb.

In many ways we are geared up for another boy.  I have boxes upon boxes of boys clothes, and with this little dude due shortly after Archie's birthday, it should all be the right season too.  Our house seems to be full of blue and my experience of nappy changing revolves completely around boy bits.  Dylan had already let me know he would like another brother as 'boys are the best' and I have to agree (with absolutely no experience to compare to of course).  I love having boys, I love being a mama to boys.  Whilst growing up I had always pictured myself with one of each, my vision soon changed after the birth of Dylan and I saw myself surrounded by boys - a vision soon to come true.



My boys are fun, playful, loving, sensitive, boisterous, caring, energetic and beautiful and none of that is down to their gender.

I am fully aware of the strereotypes and I have no doubt my trio will fulfill most of them.  I expect our house to smell like a mixture of sweat and Lynx whilst I have a 13, 14 and 16 year old boy at home.  Looking at the amount my children eat as toddlers I may well need a second job just to afford our food bill as they hit the teenage years and I am trying my hardest to get used to the toilet humour that my three year old seems to have already adopted.  

I am a little sad that I may miss out on that mother-daughter relationship I share with my own mother, but I am also well aware that not only is it not a given, but that many mothers enjoy an equally strong relationship with their sons.   I don't know which paths my children will take as they grow and I don't know whether it would have been any different had I had a daughter, but I do know that I am going to be one proud mama surrounded by three strapping young men.  

Regardless of genitals, we are going to love this baby just as much as we love our other two.  It seems I am destined to be surrounded by gorgeous boys and I couldn't be happier.

a mother to boys, three boys, the mummy adventure, little bird jools oliver

18 comments:

  1. Hooray for boys! They are indeed the best! I would have loved to have had another :)

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  2. I really relate to this. Although i only have 1 boy (at the moment!) i was desperate for a girl. my mind has completely changed since having Flynn...i couldn't love him anymore. Like you i am well prepared for a stinky lazy teenager but i can't wait. I hope he is a lad who loves his mum (a bit like the carter family on fasteners!) I can't wait to have more and i will be so pleased whether its a boy or girl :-) xxx

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    1. I think we have what we are meant to have, and the best thing we can possibly be is content and happy with that. x

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  3. What a lovely, refreshing post! Your boys are gorgeous. I do believe that we get the children that we're meant to have, and as yours are particularly lovely, you're one very lucky lady. :)

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    1. They are pretty lovely! (most of the time). Enjoy being a mum to boys yourself x

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  4. What a gorgeous photo of you and your boys Bex- It must have been slightly annoying for people to ask if you were hoping for a girl, you will be a lucky Mummy to have three strapping men to look after you when they are older. xx

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    1. I think people ask it more if you have all boys than all girls!

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  5. Your boys are going to have such great relationships along with your relationship with them too. Such lucky boys! x

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  6. Really lovely photograph of you with your boys Bex, I love the relationship that the boys have with each other. I only have a younger sister and can only imagine what it must be like to have an older brother, your boys are going to have a blast xx

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    1. I had a brother and sister so I grew up with a very different dynamic to that in my house, but I think this is going to be just as fun

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  7. Oh what a lovely picture of all of you! We had the same sort of comments in reverse all through my pregnancy with Pip and we'd have been just as thrilled if he'd turned out to be a third daughter. At the end of the day they are our children and I don't think I can imagine wanting anything different to the trio I have!!

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    1. You are lucky to have three beautiful, healthy children! I think we all get the perfect family for us

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  8. I just came over because I saw you'd commented on Adele's blog and the title of your post appealed to me - like you, I imagined I'd have one of each, then boy1 came along, and then boy2...I love my identity as a mum of boys more than I could have dreamed, but it's something I need to resolve before we decide on whether to have a third. Again like you, my sense of loss about not having a girl is linked to the idea of an adult daughter - and I definitely wouldn't want to have another then be disappointed about a boy so I need to be sure I wouldn't be, if that makes sense?
    Thank you for sharing, though - I enjoyed feeling not alone in this!

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    1. Hi Helen,

      I think what has reassured me is knowing more people now, I know one couple where the man speaks to his mum every day, she is such a massive part of their lives as a family whilst the woman is not close with her mum at all. Having a daughter guarantees nothing, and I am just hoping that one of my boys at least stays close! Good luck on making the decision and enjoy your boys x

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  9. I've got a half finished post on this in my drafts and have written one about gender disappointment before - it drives me insane!!! I hate when people imply that having two boys is in any way lacking, If i do end up having another like you i would be chuffed to bits with a third boy! Boys rock (as i'm sure do girls) ;) xxx

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  10. What a lovely photograph! Congratulations on your pregnancy and on your boy! I thought I wanted one of each but actually I'm so happy to be mama to two girls and if I had another, I'd genuinely be pleased to have another girl. That said, it did take some mental readjustment when the sonographer said we were having another girl, because of the picture I'd built up in my head!

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